As I walked with a friend the other day, I had a thought:
What if, instead of labeling it as a midlife crisis, we say it’s a midlife transformation??
Crisis has such a negative connotation, for obvious and very valid reasons.
But transformation – now THAT’S a word that I can get behind.
As many adult come into midlife, there’s a realization that what worked in the first half of life isn’t working for now. Hence during the middle of life. This normally occurs somewhere in the 4th decade (give/take).
During that time, many choose to question and clarify their sense of purpose – what makes them happy, their social and relational dynamics, and try things they haven’t tried before. You might see this happening as external change – a new car, change in relationship status, hair style adjusting, clothing shifts, career change, reliving their youth.
It’s like a sluffing off of the old, and transforming in to the new you – whoever that may be. In this process, you’re trying to find out.
Is this really a bad thing – is it really a crisis? Transformation is powerful – we see it in the changing of seasons, in a caterpillar –> butterfly.
Maybe, we spend the fist half of our lives as caterpillars, and in time, we get to watch our transformation into something else. We’re still us, just in different form. I don’t know about you, but if this is the case, I’m hopeful to emerge as a colorful and vibrant butterfly, and not as a grey miller moth.
Thanks for going down that rabbit hole with me.
If you’re ready for some transformation, I have a few options that might jump-start you. Check these out:
- Curious what Positive Intelligence is, and want to know your Saboteurs? Book a PQ Saboteur Assessment, and get a glimpse.
- Shift your Mindset – 6 week program – now offered on a rolling basis for individuals and/or groups!
- Forgiveness Program– 8 week individual program (inquire for details)
Did you know? I love speaking at events!
I really enjoy speaking at events. If you are in need of a speaker (virtual or in person), please let me know. We can tailor the content to your needs, and here are some prepared talks:
Enneagram – What is it, and why is it important?
Forgiveness – An Act of Self-Love
A New Path – Go Around the Wall
